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The best open-minded dating apps we've actually tested

Most "best open-minded dating apps" lists are top-tens of mainstream apps with the orientation filter widened. We only rank products we have tested on real accounts inside the niche. In our current coverage that means two products — Feeld and 3Fun — ranked on merit rather than padded out with mainstream swipe apps that happen to support non-monogamous or paired-account use cases as edge cases. Feeld leads on a cleaner record and a more coherent audience; 3Fun follows on a bigger free tier and real scale, marked down honestly for a documented security history.

Public scoring rubricNo paid placements

This list is editorial-first; some picks have no affiliate link — we still rank them because the brand earns the slot, not because it pays.

Quick picks

Three picks at a glance · Best open-minded dating apps.

Common situations this list fits

Three readers we hear from regularly.

Open-minded dating is not a single audience. The single ranked pick fits all three of these situations better than any mainstream app with a checkbox layered on top.

  • 01

    Ethical non-monogamy from day one

    You want non-monogamy declared in the profile schema, not hidden behind a filter on a mainstream pool.

  • 02

    Couples exploring together

    You want paired-account browsing built in, so partners can match as a pair without workarounds.

  • 03

    Identity-aware queer dating

    You want pronouns, sexuality and relationship structure as first-class profile fields — not optional checkboxes.

We keep this list narrow on purpose — no padded rankings.

The full ranking

  1. #1
    Top pick

    Feeld

    6.2/ 10

    Best for Casual dating

    A coherent open-minded dating app for non-monogamous and curious adults — strong fit inside its niche, the wrong recommendation for anyone shopping for a traditional mainstream pool.

    Why it ranks #1

    Identity and orientation fields are first-class — gender, pronouns, sexuality and relationship structure are part of the profile rather than bolted on as filters

    Start with Feeld →Read full review →
  2. #2

    3Fun

    5.3/ 10

    Best for Casual dating

    A real, large non-monogamy and threesome app that's genuinely free to message and easy to use — but a documented security breach that exposed users' location, photos and chats is a serious mark against it, and the pool thins fast outside big cities.

    Why it ranks #2

    Free messaging is genuinely usable — you can match and chat without paying, which is unusual for a hookup-intent app where the inbox is normally the paywall

    See 3Fun →Read full review →

Who this is for

  • Adults who already know their relationship structure is non-monogamous, polyamorous or otherwise outside the default one-to-one frame.
  • Couples or partners who want to browse and message together on a product where paired-account support is built in rather than worked around.
  • Readers who want an identity-aware profile schema rather than a default one-to-one schema with non-monogamy hidden behind a filter.

Who should skip this

  • Anyone shopping for traditional one-to-one dating — these are the wrong fit and the mainstream apps rank higher on the dating-apps and overall lists.
  • Readers in low-density secondary markets — the niche makes pool thinness sharper than on a mainstream product at the same address.
  • Anyone for whom a documented past data-exposure incident is a dealbreaker should read the 3Fun review's safety section before signing up there, and may prefer Feeld.

How we ranked this list

Feeld is first: it's built around non-monogamy as the default — identity, pronouns, sexuality and relationship structure are first-class profile fields, paired-account support is structural, and the audience is narrow but coherent. 3Fun is second: a larger free tier (messaging isn't paywalled) and real scale in the threesome and swinging niche, but a 2019 Pen Test Partners study found it exposed users' location, photos and chat data and we can't confirm the fix — so we grade its safety well below Feeld and say so plainly. Mainstream apps with a non-monogamy checkbox aren't in this list.

  1. This list ranks only open-minded-by-design products we have tested on real accounts, in score order. We will not pad it with mainstream apps that happen to support non-monogamous or paired-account use cases.
  2. Score, audience and value grades come from each underlying review and update when those reviews update.
  3. 3Fun's safety grade reflects the documented 2019 Pen Test Partners finding, treated as a past finding with remediation we have not independently verified — honest, not alarmist.

Read the full scoring methodology →

Side-by-side

Compare picks in Best open-minded dating apps.

RankSiteScoreBest forPricingVerdict
01Feeld6.2/10casualFreemium · paid DMsA coherent open-minded dating app for non-monogamous and curious adults — strong fit inside its niche, the wrong recommendation for anyone shopping for a traditional mainstream pool.
023Fun5.3/10casualFreemium · paid DMsA real, large non-monogamy and threesome app that's genuinely free to message and easy to use — but a documented security breach that exposed users' location, photos and chats is a serious mark against it, and the pool thins fast outside big cities.

Same five-axis rubric across the table — see methodology for the scoring detail.

Best if…

When this list is the right call

  • Best if you want a casual-first app that's quick to use. Tops the casual picks on the UX axis — fast to set up and easy to run day to day. Top pick: Feeld.
  • Best if you want to evaluate before paying. Ships a usable free tier — the Value axis names which surface pays the bill. Top pick: Feeld.

What goes wrong here

From the scores across this list

  • Low-effort audience. These picks score below 7.0 on Audience quality. Expect a higher share of low-effort openers and templated bios.
  • Pricing-wall reality check. Most picks underperform on the Value axis. Cancellations cluster around the first renewal.
  • Onboarding fatigue. UX axis lags the broader recommend floor. Plan for a longer signup with mid-flow surprises.
  • Ghost-town risk. The pool is narrow. Outside major metros it can thin fast — message wider or expect slower reply pace.

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How we work

Reviews that earn a place in your shortlist.

  • Tested on real accounts

    We pay for our own subscriptions and log in like everyone else.

  • Scored on a public rubric

    UX, value, audience quality, safety — every site, same five axes.

  • Editorially independent

    Affiliate links never change a ranking. Our review is the review.